Thursday, August 27, 2009

Friday Night = Date Night

I'm a firm believer that it's important to have one-on-one time with your spouse in order to keep your marriage healthy. For me, it's very easy to get caught up in the day-to-day busyness of life, between work, kids, preparing dinner, taking time for my Heavenly Father with scripture study & prayer, as well as taking time for me. In that mix of balancing my life, I realize the importance of also spending time with my husband. Although he encouraged me to start this blog, he isn't too keen on me spending the entire evening on my computer. Unfortunately, the ONLY time I can devote to the blog is in the evening after the kids go to bed. But understanding my husband's need for quality time with him, I do my best to limit my PC & blogging activity and up the "little things" that I know my husband likes.

We also try to devote at least one Friday night each month to just each other. Sometimes it ends up being a Saturday afternoon, depending on what's going on. The goal is simple: Just us. No kids. No chores. No to anything that will keep us from inadvertently focusing on each other.

It's on these nights that we'll send the kids to their grandparents' house, or my husband's younger brother will come over to the house & babysit the kids while we go out.

Usually, we don't spend a lot of money. If we go to a movie, which happens maybe once or twice a year, we'll go to a Saturday afternoon matinee when ticket prices are cheapest. We'll share a tub of popcorn and a drink, instead of buying individual ones. My husband prefers cola-type sodas, but I do not drink caffeinated beverages, but since he loves me, he'll happily share a lemon-lime version instead.

Other dates might simply be cuddling up on the couch at home watching a movie and giving each other foot massages. I bought a good foot massage lotion that smells like peppermint. I love it! My husband gives the best foot massages, and with this peppermint lotion, my feet come out smoother than a baby's bottom! And they're still just as soft the next day.

Last month, we went on a date night that was completely different than any we had done before--a ghostwalk. A friend of ours is the curator of a local museum, and she told us about a ghostwalk one of the local paranormal societies was doing. I'm an absolute fan of Syfy's Ghost Hunters (TAPS)and Ghost Hunters International, the only shows I care to watch, otherwise, I usually don't watch TV.

Anyhow, we were really intrigued and, at the very least, it sounded like a great opportunity to get some exercising. Our "date night" came, and we went to the museum downtown. Along with about 30 other people, we took a tour of the downtown section and learned a lot of history, including the "ghostly" activity in the historical buildings and homes.

I managed to capture a picture of a ghost!!!

It was a fun and informative evening, and we really enjoyed the opportunity & blessing it was to have some time together. Even with the large group of people, it was still nice to spend an evening together.


  1. Me and my husband don't get many date nights together. We decided to scale back on the grandparents watching the kids and haven't found a good sitter. Hopefully, we can. Plus my oldest will be able to watch them in a couple years.
    Glad you are able to do this.

    PS Thanks for your nice comments on my site!
    Have a great day!

  2. I wish we could have more date nights than just once a month, but we haven't got to that point yet since the kid were born. (pre-kids every night was a date night!) We don't like burdening my in-laws either, so we try to rotate between them, and my brother-in-law, and my sister-in-law. Who knew dating your spouse could be so hard?!

    BTW, you're welcome, Lisa!


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